Turn down the timeouts and numbers a bit:
FailTimeout 10s -> 5s
Future 60s -> 12s
TryDuration 60s -> 16s
The timeout for decrementing the fails in a host: 10s -> 2s

And the biggest change: don't set fails when the error is Timeout(),
meaning we loop for a bit and may try the same server again, but we
don't mark our upstream as bad, see comments in proxy.go. Testing this
with "ANY isc.org" and "MX miek.nl" we see:

~~~
::1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:17 +0100] "ANY IN isc.org. udp 37 false 4096" SERVFAIL qr,rd 37 10.001621221s
24/Sep/2017:08:06:17 +0100 [ERROR 0 isc.org. ANY] unreachable backend: read udp 192.168.1.148:37420->8.8.8.8:53: i/o timeout

::1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:17 +0100] "MX IN miek.nl. udp 37 false 4096" NOERROR qr,rd,ra,ad 170 35.957284ms

127.0.0.1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:18 +0100] "ANY IN isc.org. udp 37 false 4096" SERVFAIL qr,rd 37 10.002051726s
24/Sep/2017:08:06:18 +0100 [ERROR 0 isc.org. ANY] unreachable backend: read udp 192.168.1.148:54901->8.8.8.8:53: i/o timeout

::1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:19 +0100] "MX IN miek.nl. udp 37 false 4096" NOERROR qr,rd,ra,ad 170 56.848416ms
127.0.0.1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:21 +0100] "MX IN miek.nl. udp 37 false 4096" NOERROR qr,rd,ra,ad 170 48.118349ms
::1 - [24/Sep/2017:08:06:21 +0100] "MX IN miek.nl. udp 37 false 4096" NOERROR qr,rd,ra,ad 170 1.055172915s
~~~

So the ANY isc.org queries show up twice, because we retry internally -
this is I think WAI.

The `miek.nl MX` queries are just processed normally as no backend is
marked as unreachable.

May fix #1035 #486